Men are not wired like us women, so communication comes much easier to us. These three tip helps communicate with your husband and are very effective.
Respect & Honor
By respecting your husband it gives him that confidence a man should have. By doing so he’ll want to respect you too. It’s extremely helpful to keep that respect, so when times get rough, respect would not be an issue on top of other issues you both would have to deal with. A man wants to be respected as a man, admired like a hero, and inspired to the best he can be. For example his job, honor it. It’s practically their identity, be grateful for what he does to maintain the family. Respect it by never talking down on his job, with comments like “you’re going to need a second job” etc. Help him “look his best” not physically but verbally. That’s where inspiration comes in. Instead of talking down on your husband or simply not standing up for him in front of people, do the complete opposite, build him up! He will rise to the level of honor you give him. So cover his falls and focus on his strengths. He needs you.
Sex
It’s important to please your husband in bed. Even when us women don’t “feel” like having sex. “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. “Ephesians 5:22″”. That doesn’t necessarily mean “fake” the intimacy the whole time y’all are having sex, instead think of it as a commitment. Your committed to your spouse no matter what. It’s a choice to want to fulfill your spouses needs. It’s a choice to want a successful relationship with your partner, and by that, you need to meet his needs so he will want to meet yours. Once an elder at my church service said, ” God gave men that need to keep them drawing back to you.” Just think of it, would you want your spouse to desire someone or something else just because you don’t fulfill his needs? I wouldn’t.
Friendship
Be your husbands best friend. He doesn’t want to be mothered. Get out of your environment and go into his. Enjoying the things he likes while doing with his wife is like a night out with the guys, but better. You know your husband better then anyone, do what he likes and if you’ve grown in distance, try new thing and explore what he likes. It’s scientifically known that a human being will change every 3 years, so they’re always something to learn from each other and what not better, than doing it together.
Your marriage is very important to have a successful family, so your children can grow up healed and not scarred. You need each other, to help one another meet your needs or else we wouldn’t need marriage. These tips helped my marriage out tremendously and I can honestly say my marriage has never been better.
Just Jen 